Upon this a question arises: whether it be better to be loved than feared or feared than loved? It may be answered that one should wish to be both, but, because it is difficult to unite them in one person, is much safer to be feared than loved, when, of the two, either must be dispensed with. —Niccolò Machiavelli, The Prince, Ch. 17

Whatever you do, definitely don’t try to solve your attachment issues with your audience. —Albert Einstein, probably